Dear Annie: My daughter recently and courageously moved across the country to the city her godmother lives in. I chose this friend to be her god mom based on what I thought was a beautiful bond the two had with each other. I adopted my daughter when she was in her late teens after a heck of a time in the foster care system. My friend gave my daughter a dear nickname early on and lavished praise on her to no end. Fast-forward 15 years later, and my daughter obtained a master’s degree, bought herself a new car, has great credit and is otherwise doing well.

Because my daughter has no rental history, the management company at the apartment she applied to wanted a co-signer. My daughter decided to ask her godmother to co-sign for her, adding, “I have significant cash that I could give to you to hold until you could be removed as co-signer.” Her godmother replied, “No. I won’t be doing that. Welcome to adulting.”