A boyfriend (let’s call him Mr. Perfect Body) offers to help his girlfriend lose weight after she expresses dissatisfaction with her body.

He’s supportive and encouraging, but when he points out that her “healthy” eating might not be cutting it, she flips out.

After a day of “calorie watching” that reveals she consumes 2,200 calories (while he maintains on 1,800), she ends up furious, claiming he’s shaming her instead of helping.

So, is he the villain here for simply doing the math?

My girlfriend is on the bigger side, which is something I do not mind.

I am on the more fit side, I’m pretty lean, have well defined muscles and probably around 15% body fat.

I used to be about 40 pounds heavier and lost the weight pretty simply.

My girlfriend always complains about her weight and her body.

I tell her I find her sexy for so many reasons outside her body and it didn’t matter to me whether she got bigger or smaller.

Congrats on the weight loss, but maybe skip the “it was easy for me” talk.

Eventually she decided she wanted to lose weight, I offered to help and when I pointed out things she could be doing better she gets mad at me.

She isn’t losing weight currently and in fact says she is gaining a few extra pounds.

I ask her what exactly she eats in a day, she says she eats healthy so she should lose weight.

I question that and we have an argument.

I tell her that if she wants to show me, let me just spend a day with her and see what she eats in a day.

She said only if I don’t make comments on what she’s eating as she’s eating it.

I agreed.

Sounds like a fun day of watching her eat while you try not to turn into a commentary machine—good luck with that!

Now by the end of the day she had consumed, a plate of avocado toast that was about 400 calories, a coffee that was 110 calories, an 800 calorie salad from chick fil a and a fry (as a “reward” for the salad) and veggie burrito that was about 500 calories.

Along with snacking but throughout the day.

Her total consumption was about 2200 calories.

Guess “eating healthy” really meant “eating like a cardio marathoner without the cardio”!

At the end of the day I explained this to her.

My exact words were that the amount of calories she is consuming is the amount I need to maintain my weight as a man 5 inches and 20 pounds bigger, who is constantly active.

So chances are she’ll slowly gain weight eating like that and that eating healthy isn’t going to guarantee she’ll lose weight.

She got super pissed at me and told me I wasn’t helping her and was just shaming her.

I told her I want to help her but she did not listen.

AITA?

He thought he was being a supportive partner by providing honest feedback, but now he’s left wondering if he miscalculated his approach.

Reddit is kind of mixed here.

This person says sure he’s nice about it, but he has to tread lighter.

This person says he’s the jerk because he pressured her into the constructive criticism.

This person says not the jerk, but knows how his girlfriend is feeling.

Hmmm…

Looks like his math skills might be sharper than his relationship skills.

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